The Tyranny of Positive Thinking
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When we confuse our experience with our identity we miss out on our wholeness. For example if we do something we consider ‘bad’ we then call ourselves bad. Saying things like I am bad. ‘I’m a bum’ I’m lazy etc. If we grew up in a particular circumstance some of us always identify with that circumstance, even if the conditions are no longer true. For example some who grew up poor may continue to hold to a poverty mindset. Saying things like I am poor.
We cannot heal ourselves fully until we experience things from both sides and sit in the compassion of it.
The tyranny of positive thinking says we must only experience and feel positive emotions. It says we should not acknowledge our flaws because to do so would me that we are flawed, broken or in some way incomplete. I say the opposite is true. Not to acknowledge our shadow makes us incomplete. To do this is to deny the full truth.
We are so gifted at finding new ways to make ourselves wrong. it’s easier to believe we’re flawed; because if we’re flawed we don’t hold ourselves accountable to greatness. But if we believe that despite our shadow, despite our transgressions we are still extraordinary it is our responsibility to remain in alignment with the full truth of who we are.
Sometime an experience isn’t negative or positive it just is, or as some like to say it is what it is.
Don’t allow the tyranny of positive thinking to give you the impression that unless you are positive every day all the time then something is wrong. It is the meaning that we give a thing that gives it its shape, form and power.
When we sterilize Positive Transformation we make it unrealistic and unachievable. It creates a widening gap between where we believe we are where we want to be. Every thought you have does not need to be a positive one for you to consider yourself a positive person.
Avoid the tyranny of positive thinking by allowing for self-compassion.
there is something diminishing in the tyranny of positive thinking that does not allow for authentic and complete self-expression.
I wasn’t able to experience my breakthrough until first I allow myself to breakdown. People overcome by the tyranny of positive thinking does not allow themselves to breakdown because it is considered negative.
It takes great courage to see the world in all it;s tainted ugliness and still love it. It takes even more courage to see this in ourselves and still love who we are.